Parenting with Courage

by Mandi Hart

 

About the book

Parenting with Courage is a fresh and contemporary book on raising children. Written by a South African mom and author, Mandi Hart.

This book will guide you through the ages, the stages and provide you with valuable tools. Raising a child is the most important job you will ever have.

With practical tips, illuminating Scripture verses and inspirational real-life stories from around the world, you will grow in confidence as you raise your kids.

It doesn’t matter if you are an experienced parent or a parent-to-be, this book will become a great resource to you.

 

Some of the topics covered include:

  • Values-based parenting,
  • The role culture plays,
  • Ages and stages of development,
  • Discipline and
  • Mindful parenting

Chapter 5: My Personal Parenting Toolkit

The family should be a closely knit group. The home should be a self-contained shelter of security; a kind of school where life’s basic lessons are taught; and a kind of church where God is honored; a place where wholesome recreation and simple pleasures are enjoyed. – BILLY GRAHAM

If I had a toolkit to parent my kids, I would include these ten tips in my box. These aspects have been invaluable to us as we raise our children.

1) Parenting with a Funnel View Parenting can be daunting. When our children were toddlers, we quickly discovered that when we allowed certain freedoms beyond their ability to navigate, we would undoubtedly encounter problems. As a child grows, two processes continue to dominate: growth in biological areas and learning in their mental and spiritual processes. You cannot rush these stages. According to Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam in On Becoming Childwise, “Allowing a child to progress into his new and expanding world in an orderly fashion greatly enhances learning and decreases the need for correction.” For my toddler, temper tantrums were often the result of not getting their own way and when I thought about it, I realized that I had sometimes inadvertently caused it. My son, Matt, was almost two and loved tractors. One day, while walking through the shopping mall, I took him into a toy shop with no intention of buying a tractor. He saw one and wanted it but couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t let him have it. Much to my embarrassment, I carried him out of the shop screaming. Suddenly, the penny dropped and I realized that if I hadn’t taken him into the shop we would not have had the tantrum. I needed stricter self-control and consistency in my actions and I realized that this decision would affect his behavior, too. I started to apply that principle to a few areas and saw a positive change in his behavior. As my husband and I discussed this incident and few others, we realized that we were giving our children too much freedom. The result was frustration and a form of insecurity in their lives. We decided not to grant too many decision-making, verbal and physical freedoms beyond their current ability. This decision has really helped us over the years. It was then that we decided to adopt what we call “funnel-view parenting” as one of our tools as shown in the diagram on the right. As our children grew, so did their freedom and our trust in them. This has helped us to avoid a few minefields as we have not had to go back on our word. Now that our children have matured into teenagers, we explained to them that trust is a like a tightrope. We will give them more and more latitude as they get older, but with it comes a greater responsibility on their side. Wisdom from the Lord is key as we parent like this. We release more and more freedom as our children grow older and as we impart our values intentionally into their lives through open and honest conversations about difficult topics. Openness, vulnerability and trust are part of the foundation of our relationship with them. This aspect brings freedom to our relationship, and with it, joy.

  © Excerpt - Mandi Hart

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Foreword by Sally McClung, founder of All Nations

Sally & Floyd McClung“Of all the responsibilities I’ve had in my life, the hardest one by far has been parenting. We usually don’t have any preparation or training before we are thrust into this most important of tasks.

In Parenting with Courage, Mandi gives readers helpful and practical tools as well as a godly perspective on the responsibility of shaping lives. She shares a biblical worldview to parenting and encourages us to look at how we were parented as well as the input of “fathers and mothers” around us who have influenced our lives. Her explanation of our natural culture versus God’s culture, and fleshing this out with experience and testimonies, is such a fresh approach to parenting.”

Feedback from Readers

“Parenting with Courage is like having a good friend standing with you while you take on the hardest task in the world!  The wisdom Mandi brings is tried and tested, and it acts like a ‘backbone,’ helping me act decisively when I lack the courage of my convictions.”  

Claire Maudhub

United Kingdom

“Parenting with Courage has shown me how to listen and respect my children’s identity in Christ.  And how to listen to them. It has shown me to ask God first how to handle each of my children’s challenges differently.  I keep it close at hand and refer to it regularly.”

Treshce Webster

Somerset East

“I’m so grateful for this book! It came just at the right time.  My oldest daughter turned 13 and got a cell phone and just to be able to know how to navigate that space, has made me feel safe again.  I applied the recommendations and  it’s made all the difference!”

Deborah Paterson

Cape Town

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Gary Smalley said, “Affirming words from moms and dads are like light switches. Speak a word of affirmation at the right moment in a child’s life, and it’s like lighting up a whole roomful of possibilities.”

This journal will enable all parents to do just that.

It is only available in hard copy and can be bought from all leading bookstores in either English or Afrikaans.

The Parenting Journal is intended to be a creative and ever-growing expression of a parent’s love for their child. In it, you can write, draw and document the dreams and prophecies you feel are for your child. You can record your prayers and particular Bible verses you trust God for.

This journal contains:

  • A page to write down your child’s name, together with its meaning and the Bible verses linked to their name.
  • Key Scriptures: a section to record essential life verses that you have been (or will start to) pray over your child.
  • Lessons you want to teach your child: a section where you can write down the intentional experiences you feel you need to teach your child
  • Quotes and Scriptures from Parenting with Courage
  • Plenty of blank pages for you to write your prayers, note your answered prayers and journal your thoughts as you raise your child.

 

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