Habits shape our lives. The question I hear repeated all around me lately is, “How do we rebuilt post-pandemic?” I’ve been thinking about the world and heard it said that we’ve all gone through a collective trauma.
Now, this is familiar territory…
Trauma changes us
When we ditch mom-guilt and remove unrealistic expectations off our lives, we can truly love and live fully. Your children will thank you for it in years to come (and so will your future-self)
Mom-guilt is a thing.
Whether you’re a mom or dad, you are prone to its effects.
Parents, it’s wild out there.
“What do you mean”, you say? I’m not sure how you feel, but to me, the world is shaking. It’s a VUCA world for sure. A VUCA world stands for Volatile, Uncertain, Complex and Ambiguous environment. Doesn’t that describe how things are right now?
It’s hard to parent when the threats are real. And in a time of VUCA, we need a fresh mindset, a new skillset. Many are describing the times we are living in as an age of too much.
Parenting with intention is not an easy feat. It takes time, effort, and dare I even say, planning. No-one is ever quite ready – every parent is caught off guard time and again. I think we have moments when we realize, “WOW, what am I doing” and then we take a deep breath and carry on. But I do
love being a mom. I wouldn’t change it for anything in this world.
Compassion fatigue happens when your heart can’t take any more pain because of what you are seeing or experiencing from the world around you. It affects more people than you realize. It is when the broken state of the world and the sheer number of things requiring your compassion become too much, and you eventually reach a state of numbness, even apathy.
Our future leaders are in our homes today. Love them well and see our children thrive.
A clinical psychologist, Suntosh Pillay, working in the public sector in KwaZulu-Natal expressed a view in an article on City Press that the Covid-19 has caused an “emotional tsunami”, which places another stress on an already tense society.
“We must never talk about keeping people physically healthy without a parallel conversation about keeping people emotionally well. We need to keep [the] conversation around mental health alive on all levels,”