Fathers can change the world
Fathers are like gold. The importance of healthy fathers is indispensable for the health of not only a family and a community but the entire world. Because, without proper fathering, we are perpetuating broken generations. Fathers can change the world.
Our world is suffering for lack of fathers
Recent statistics indicate that over 60% of the children in South Africa are registered without a father’s name on their birth certificate and have absent fathers. And, more than 40% of SA’s mothers are single parents.* These alarming statistics are cause for concern, but also an incredible opportunity for the men in our community to become fathers to the fatherless.
The children of the world need you Fathers – more than you know.
“In our school, we see that 50% to 60% of our students are growing up in a home where a family is split up, either by divorce or by a father working offshore. A lack of a male figure affects our kids, and especially our boys in the following ways: The child seems to feel that they do not belong, or feel unsafe in their home environment and this has a negative impact on their self-esteem. We see that these students often clash with their peers, and they may seem quite needy towards male staff members, searching for healthy male contact or love,” commented a South African junior school deputy head and educator (from my book Parenting with Courage).
A father’s role
In an excerpt from my book, Parenting with Courage, I wrote that there is no question that fathers do play an essential part in their children’s lives. Firstly, the majority of studies affirm that an involved father can play a crucial role particularly in the cognitive, behavioral and general health and well-being areas of a child’s life. Secondly, having a positive male role model helps an adolescent boy develop positive gender-role characteristics. Thirdly, teenage girls are more likely to form positive opinions of men and are better able to relate to them when fathered by an involved father. Consequently, it is generally accepted, under most circumstances, that a father’s presence and involvement can be as crucial to a child’s healthy development as is the mother’s. Finally, validation of a father’s importance in the general parenting literature has made these dads much more conscious of their value and, in turn, leads to their greater desire to be involved.
Many fathers believe the lie that they play a second-class role to the mother. If you are a dad, I want to remind you that your children want and need you; you are critical to their well-being and success.
A father’s commission
Fathers provide for and love their family; they protect their children, train them, disciple them in the ways of the Lord and life. A father who loves his children takes care when disciplining them. And, he is a powerful influence in releasing his son or daughter into their destiny. His presence offers safety and protection. A defender of his children, he also encourages them, and they can trust his word and his ways.
Good fathers are patient, humble, and godly. He shows them what God the Father is like. A dear friend of ours, Floyd McClung, said that being a good father has more to do with the atmosphere we create than the words we speak. People will remember our attitudes and our actions—how we say things—far longer than the actual conversations.”
Here are a few thought-provoking quotes about fathers:
“A child identifies his parents with God, whether or not the adults want that role. Most children’ see’ God the way they perceive their earthly fathers.” James Dobson
“Father to teenage son: “My relationship with you is more important than anything I’ve got to say to you.” Randy Alcorn, Courageous
“Every father should remember one day his son will follow his example, not his advice.” Charles Kettering
“The heart of a father is the masterpiece of nature.” Prevost Abbe, Manon Lescaut
“Listen to my correction, my sons, for I speak to you as your Father. Let discernment enter your heart, and you will grow wise with the understanding I impart. My revelation-truth is a gift to you, so remain faithful to my instruction”. Proverbs 4:1-2 (The Passion Translation)
“Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.” James 1:17 | NIV
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